Last Updated on January 9, 2020 by Creative Parenting
I’m not always the calmest when there’s a diaper blowout in the car.
When it happens, I’m lucky if I don’t loose my mind.
You know how it goes:
You’re in the car. On your way. And then it happens. First, the smell. Is it a toot?
Then you look. And it’s bad. A complete mess. Poop all up his backside. Poop on the car seat.
Poop on his hands.
And that’s when your stress levels rise.
But there’s a subtle way to shift your reaction…
It’s only thanks to some recent mindset lessons I’ve been practicing that I’ve been able to shift my response.
It’s not that it’s really such a disaster.
I mean, it’s just a poop of a mess, right?
I was overreacting.
But even more than that, I realized my reaction was just a desire to control.
You see, I’m a planner.
I’m in charge.
And like many parents who feel that way, I like to think I’m owning the day in many areas:
- Managing a household
- Raising my kid
- Pursuing career success
And that’s what I KNOW I’m doing, every day.
Living life to the fullest.
But then, the little mishaps happen.
I mean, with the really big stuff I stay calm as a Monk in Tibet.
But the little things?
Like diaper blowouts?
They really grind my gears.
But here’s the thing…
I would have never learned how to stop this endless overacting if I hadn’t picked up 1 new skill.
Instead of overacting when the diaper blowouts (or whatever grands your gears) happens you:
- Remain Calm
- Stay In Control
- Even Laugh At the Absurdity
As a result, you’re able to more elegantly navigate the little stressful situations in life.
…so you can handle the big stressors with even more gracefully.
In my case, that’s what mindfulness has helped me achieve:
Instead of overreacting, I just take a few deep breaths, exhale through the crazy, and bring myself back to the present.
Even though it sounds too good to be true at first….
I always manage now to eventually get back to the present moment now.
Even in the craziest of kid situations.
And no, I’m not perfect.
I still get pretty worked up sometimes.
But its knowing that I have this amazing tool in my toolbox now,
that keeps me striving for the place of parenting zen.
So if this is something you struggle with too, do what I do:
Take up meditation.
Keep a bigger perspective on the little things.
And more mindfully.
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