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Looking to start potty training?
It’s tough to know how to start!
Potty training is a MAJOR milestone for any parent raising a toddler, and it’s one that comes with high highs and low lows.
But it’s a change that’s a part of growing up, and ultimately makes everyone’s lives easier.
When you think about potty training, you might imagine it going quickly, or even being able to do it in just a few days.
You might even think your planning chart with rewards of stickers and M&Ms will work great…
But if your toddler turns out to be stubborn and feisty, the reality could be very different.
If you’re a busy parent without a lot of spare time to cram in a three-day potty training course, it could be a different experience altogether.
But just because it might turn out more difficult than you think it would, doesn’t mean you can’t get through it!
Remember back to previous big transitions early in your child’s life that were tough but you prevailed! There’s no reason you can’t do an awesome job here.
While your kiddo might not magically start using the bathroom themselves in a day or less…
…that doesn’t mean you can’t get there sooner rather than later!
Let’s hop into the details on how to start potty training!
#1 Get An Elmo Toilet
An easy way to start talking about the whole idea of using the toilet with your toddler is to get an Elmo toilet. What could get them more excited about it than having a toilet of their own?
What’s great about starting with an Elmo toilet is you can use it as a physical prop to start teaching basic potty skills.
As they start to master basic concepts you’ll be able to talk more about what to do on the toilet.
And our next tip is about how to do that.
#2 Start Talking About It
Depending on how verbal your toddler is and how good their language skills, this may or may not work for you.
But if you do have a talkative toddler, you could get started on introducing the concept and process sooner than you think.
You’re going to get them potty trained sooner or later, so the sooner they start thinking and talking about it, the sooner they’ll be ready to give it a try.
Use your conversations around potty training to guide behavioral change.
Not only will it help them to adjust to the idea of it sooner, but it’ll help lay a conceptual foundation for behavioral change.
#3 Make A Special Space
One of the first things you can do to make your toddler feel comfortable about potty training is to make a super special place in the bathroom for them.
It’s easy when you spend so much time in the bathroom to overlook this step!
But if you’re going to try and get your toddler excited about using the toilet, you’ve gotta think about what you can do to liven up the bathroom and make it a fun space.
Instead of just putting the Elmo toilet in the bathroom and calling it a day, decorate the place with some fun inspiration.
Now, you don’t have to go crazy, but you do have to make it fun!
A sticker poster, M&Ms, Elmo Potty, and Bjorn toilet seat should do the trick!
#4 Give Off A Positive Vibe
Once you have your physical potty training space all set up you can strategize about your mental energy.
After all, like any transition as a parent, this one’s not gonna be easy.
But once you have the special space set up and ready to go, you’ll be ready to get psyched up.
Now, if you’re wondering why you might need to do that, let me explain.
At first, everything will be new and exciting. But over time it’ll become less so.
And when that happens, you’ll want to make a conscious effort to model a positive vibe.
Cause if you’re better able to give off positive vibes and energy, the more likely your child will associate positive emotions rather than negative with the whole experience.
So instead of letting your negative energy get picked up and turned into resistance by your little one…
…stay mindful and reframe it.
You’ll give off a positive vibe and that’ll translate into more success with potty training!
Once your little one starts having some success with trying to use the bathroom, you can track it with a sticker poster:
#5 Make A Sticker Poster
A simple sticker poster is a key ingredient to getting your little one motivated in the beginning.
Not only will it allow you to create a reward system for long term progress, but it’ll help provide a tangible reward to your toddler in the moment of their success.
Pick some bright colored paper, draw a solid grid with tracking and space for stickers, and tape it up in the bathroom somewhere that’s reachable for your toddler.
Then you’ll be ready to tell them all about it and get them excited about tracking their “trys” as they go.
Once you’ve got that setup, you’ll be ready to start creating a routine.
#6 Build A Potty Time Routine
They say one of the best things you can do as a parent is to build a routine for your kiddo.
And that’s true for potty training as it is with everything else.
With that said, there seems to be so much pressure out there to somehow instantly potty train your toddler. Some even say it’s possible in 3 days or less!
Let’s be realistic, folks.
Think about it:
When did your child accomplish ANY new behavioral change in LESS than three days?
Now sure, if you’ve only got one at home you might be able to do it. But if you’ve got more than one kid?
You’re gonna need to be patient.
But just because you’re not potty training in three days or less doesn’t mean you shouldn’t build a routine in order to be consistent.
The key is figuring out when in your very busy day you can work it in.
The most effective way to do this – if you’re NOT training in three days- is to build it into existing routines.
So for example, if you’ve got an existing bedtime routine you can add it into the mix for that.
Or if you’ve got a morning routine going you can add it in right after your toddler gets dressed but before you brush teeth.
Either way, the idea here is that you’re building on existing routines, rather than making some Herculean effort to train them all in one go.
So once you’ve got a routine going, then the next step is to keep it from becoming too routine!
#7 Find Ways To Make Potty Time EXCITING
Now that you’ve got the space set up and a routine going, the key is to not let it get too boring.
You don’t have to get fancy in trying to do this, either.
It’s not that it should always be so fun and engaging, but rather like with anything else your young kiddos do you’ve got to keep their attention engaged.
You can do this in a variety of ways:
- Sit across from them on the bathtub and talk to them
- Sing their favorite songs
- Let ’em have a favorite toy (but not so big they’ll drop it in)
- Read a book
- Talk to them about their day
- Talk to them about what they’re doing
With these strategies, you won’t completely get rid of those moments when they get a bit bored, you’ll be able to refocus their attention when they do!
Once you’ve tried out a few of these strategies, keep a list of what seems to work best so you can add them to your toolbox.
#8 Up The Ante If You Need To
Ok, let’s say so you’ve done all the above and still are finding it challenging to get your son/daughter motivated to spend time on the toilet.
You’ve even had some success with your little one using the bathroom, but then things start to stall.
What do you do?
Well, if you’ve set up a reward system and you find it’s not working well enough, then it might be time to up the ante.
A simple tweak can make a difference between getting results, having fun, and making it all a battle.
If you’ve hit a wall, an effective approach to see results faster is to up the ante.
So for example, if you’ve got a treat of some kind, say, M&Ms, increase the number they get.
If the reward is stickers, increase the number of stickers they get to play with and put on their poster.
If it’s M&Ms, you can start with a reward of one M&M for a try on the toilet, two if they pee, and three if they poop.
Try this for a week or so and if you’re not getting results, increase the reward.
The sweet spot might just be 2, 3 and 4 M&Ms, and so on.
It might take some time and experimentation to figure out what reward best motivates them…
But you’ll get there!